Ignorance must be bliss, right?

So when I found out that my former BFF was pregnant, it really knocked my confidence.

Not only was she going to have a baby before me, but she fell pregnant within the first month of her marriage.

Worse than that was the way she went about NOT telling me but instead chose to tell other friends "by accident".  She had ample opportunity to tell me before telling them but she chose not to even though she feigned caring and being sensitive to my needs.  Well what a kick in the teeth to find out via Facebook and then via the pregnancy forums of which I have been a member since 2006.

When I confronted her about it she was utterly perplexed and insulted that I didn't congratulate her straight away.  Because it IS all about her, yeah?  Not at all about the fact that I have been swept aside and my feelings diminished to zilch.

She told me, after I had endured 4 miscarriages and severe depression, that I needed to "get rid of the chip on my shoulder" and that my bitterness was caused by the group of women I chose as a support network (because they have all endured infertility and are just a bunch of bitter bitches too I suppose!!).

Well I guess that's all the proof one needs to show that I am miserable and bitter and selfish.  Of course it has nothing to do with the isolation, pain and lack of support from that supposed BFF who didn't once come to hold my hand or lay and cry with me.  Nope, because saving your money to indulge in as many skiing trips as you could was a MUCH higher priority.

Of course, I flew 1/2 way around the world to be there for you on your wedding day last year, but a few years ago when I was living interstate and only an hour's flying time away and I needed you, it was too much to expect from the person I considered as my sister to come and be by my side.

I NEEDED YOU.

I needed someone I could trust.

You let me down.

Do fertiles think that we "get over" our losses after a prescribed period of grieving?  I'd love to know what it's like to be one of them so I can be blissfully ignorant too.